This is how the orgasm fairy tale goes: You meet Prince Charming, and from the very first time, he knows exactly how your body works. There's some kissing, some foreplay, some moaning and, after maybe 10 minutes of intercourse, bam—a shattering climax for two. Angels may even sing. If your sex life fits this description, kudos. If not, this story is for you. In reality, women are all over the orgasm map, and in an effort to improve your sex life, we asked dozens of them to reveal what they've learned, what they do—and what they're not afraid to ask for.
The benefits of an orgasm
For people with a clitoris or a vagina, this is how to achieve an orgasm on your own terms. But we forget that on the screens, especially the small ones pornography , an orgasm is often performative. They can visibly ejaculate.
If you're one of the few women who can pull off multiple orgasms like they're NBD, congrats! We're pretty sure they exist, but it'd be a lot easier to get on board if we'd ever experienced one ourselves. If you're looking for tips on how to improve your odds of experiencing the mythical multiple orgasm, you can find some helpful tips here and here. In the meantime, two real women who Are About That Life explain exactly what it feels like to have multiple orgasms.
The Goop Lab practically dares you to be skeptical. Put another way, she was standing inside a vulva. How could things possibly go wrong? It threads the needle between sensual and clinical. And, most impressively, it does so without the creeping sense of male gaze. It does so without feeling like there is any sort of gaze at all.